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Rehab and Negotiations – Surprising Commonalities
I recently had knee replacement surgery, and the post-surgery rehabilitation phase has been challenging. Everything went well surgery-wise, but the rehab – to be successful long-term – has required a surprising level of perseverance, dedication, discipline, and commitment.


Tone Matters in Negotiations
"It’s your tone,” my wife said to me after I apologized. What did she mean? She didn’t feel like I meant it when I said it. “Ugh,” I thought to myself. I did mean it, but it doesn’t really help much if she doesn’t believe it. What’s the problem here?


Disney CEO’s Negotiation Lessons (Part Two)
I am not a huge fan of Disneyland and Disneyworld. My wife and kids love them, but I hate long lines and just don’t love rollercoasters and their other rides (largely because I don’t feel great after and it takes me a while to recover). But I do admire how Disney runs


Disney CEO’s Negotiation Lessons (Part One)
Shortly after being named Disney’s CEO, Bob Iger negotiated peace with then disgruntled and former board member Roy Disney (Walt’s nephew). Roy had just sued Disney over Iger’s selection, and it easily could have derailed Iger’s effort to lead Disney in a bold new direction.


How to Negotiate with Friends
The personal threats, vitriol and escalatory social media tantrums flying between former bromance buddies Elon Musk and Donald Trump last week – and their apparent truce this week – got me thinking about how friends should effectively communicate and negotiate with each other.


ICLEF Mourns the Passing of John C. Trimble (August 12, 1955 - July 2, 2025)
ICLEF has learned of the passing of our dear friend and long-time faculty member, John Trimble. John was an extraordinary man whose contributions to the legal community leave a profound impact and legacy....


Tennis Superstar Jimmy Connors’ Negotiation Lessons
I recently finished tennis superstar Jimmy Connors' autobiography The Outsider and it contained some great lessons applicable to negotiations (and life)...


ICLEF Mourns the Loss of Visionary to Indiana ADR and Longtime ICLEF Leader, Thomas R. Lemon
A Past-President of ICLEF and ICLEF Excellence in Continuing Legal Education Award recipient, Thomas Ridley Lemon passed away on March 26.


All of us at ICLEF Mourn the Loss of Long Time Contributor Jessie Ann Cook, 1953-2025
ICLEF is deeply saddened to learn of Jessie’s passing. For over 40 years, Jessie played a pivotal role in many aspects of continuing...


Increasing Creativity in Negotiations
I’ve always enjoyed escaping into the fantasy worlds of novels and series like The Lord of the Rings, Game of Thrones, Harry Potter, and..


Burden of Proof
The Horse Racing Integrity and Safety Act (HISA) has been in place since May 2023, and a stark difference in the manner in which horsemen...


10 Keys to Negotiating Contract Terms (Part 3)
The major deal points for the sale of my client’s company were set. But we still needed to negotiate terms and conditions (Ts and Cs)...


10 Keys to Negotiating Contract Terms (Part 2)
Learn the art of negotiation with 10 Keys to Negotiating Contract Terms (P2). Discover tactics to handle tricky counterparts and seal the...


How to Negotiate Contract Terms (Part 1)
The bread and butter of a corporate/transactional lawyer’s professional life involves negotiating contract terms and conditions (“Ts & Cs”).


Counterproductive Negotiation Pressure Tactics
I recently contacted a landscape designer to get a bid on our backyard and he came out to explore our thoughts. After checking everything...


Eliminate Negotiation Distractions
How long has it been since you were speaking with a colleague and they glanced at their phone to check a text, notification or email?


A Real Apology Speaks Volumes
No one is perfect. And everyone makes mistakes. Sometimes these mistakes are minor, but other times we really mess up. It’s human...


Memory Improvement and Negotiation Skills
I have an average memory. But I’m always looking to improve. So, when my son suggested I read Joshua Foer’s New York Times bestseller...


Three More Strategies for Cross-Cultural Negotiations
Several recent negotiation training attendees asked me how negotiations differ when you’re across the table from a company or individual...


Four Common Procurement Negotiation Mistakes (Part 2)
“Here’s the problem,” this consulting client in procurement told me years ago. “We’ve worked with this software company for a long time...
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